A mom's least favorite words...

Every child goes through a tantrum stage... each one does it differently... some do less of a tantrum and more of a head-strong rebelliousness.  At this point I have two kids that are in that stage.  We'll get through it... but my least favorite favorite words that are the beginning of an Ada sized tantrum are: "But I can't" and "But I will".  I think the "But I can't" ones are mostly because she's becoming an independent - big girl and knows that it's not easy to be one (easier for me to understand and deal with)... and the "But I will" ones are usually after the fact... they always follow an act of disobedience but she doesn't seem to understand that she needs to be disciplined for something she'd already done... I can't get rid of the consequence of something she's done because of something that she promises... Then she has a tantrum.  Don't you love these learning experiences? Grrrr.