I'm not emailing my posts to my family for a couple of weeks... I've decided to hold off on that for a while, so I'm going to go ahead and write one that I've been frustrated about, but don't feel like it's my place to do anything about... (they won't check my blog... they never do. They only get the posts because they're usually added to my email list and I think I need a little space from my family for a little while.)
Reading this last months Ensign magazine all I could think about was my brother. Mostly it was about dating and marriage. Every time you even mention the subject to either him or my elder sister they shut down... especially around me because I am married and have kids (maybe they think that makes me too pushy or something). My sister says that she doesn't want to regret the missed opportunities in life that being married would make her miss (she's 30, is starting her masters degree, has travelled to at least 16 different countries, yada yada yada) , and my brother says that he will work it out on his own but there are no signs of dating or even interest in dating (he's only 27, but he's not actively persuing a companion... he's an amazing mission leader that helps host a baptism a week, makes almost as much money as Jer and I do with only him to live off it, and has an amazing job with the National Security Agency.) And it makes me sad. Not that "they don't have someone"... but sad as in I literally ache for them and what they could miss if they don't take the chance. My sister is happy, energetic, full of ideas and plans... and amazing... she would be a heck of a wife... but she doesn't want regret. Will she regret the 20 years that she could have spent with her favorite person in the whole world as husband and wife? My brother is funny, nice, and a gentle man... and would make the best dad ever... will he end up being a 40 year old with one heck of a retirement plan and nothing to retire for? I know it's not easy, you don't turn around and everything is fixed the way you want... but I feel the loss of the life and families they might never have to cherish.
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Rhees Family
This is such a fun family. They're sweet and playful. It's fun to get to know them and try not to freeze in the cold rain! It was...
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I feel the same way! I visit teach a lady her who had two kids. Her one daughter is now 50 with no kids. Her son is 42 with just one son. Her kids either put off or did not want kids so their life would be easier or free from responsibility. Its sad. The one daughter will grow old and have no one to care for or about her. I think that they really are missing out. Jed commented the other day (when a news story revealed some church was pressuring top members to not have kids) that this is Satan's best tool - making a family seem like a cage or a burden. Instead, like our last lesson in RS was about, it is a source of great joy. So... I agree! and I hope no one reads this.
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